I stepped outside my comfort zone of usually reading only fiction and read this terrific non-fiction book called, Last One Down The Aisle Wins: 10 Keyes to a Fabulous Single Life Now And an Even Better Marriage Later, by Shannon Fox and Celeste Liversidge.
I dated my husband for five years before marrying him at the ripe old age of 21. We’ve been happily married, for the most part—if anybody tells you they’ve been married a number of years and never had any bumps in their marriage I’d have to think they are fooling themselves-- for 27 years. As the woman who choose the “other” path, I feel well qualified to speak to the issues / advice brought up in this book.
I LOVED this book. Loved it.
Before I’d even finished it I ordered copies for my 3 girls (age 17-24) and my 20-year-old niece. I wish I’d read this book when I was a late teen—even though I’d already have fallen in love by then, however, I still like to think I might have postponed getting married until I’d grown up and learned about me.
The National Center for Health Statistics have noted that your chances of staying married more than double if you get married after the age of 25. These authors espouse the theory that before rushing off to become someone’s better half, girls should take the time to be the best, strongest person they can be. And they have tons of sage advice on how.
The premise is that, if girls take the time in their early twenties to grow up—get to know themselves, learn how to forge solid, healthy friendships, make peace with difficult family dynamics, learn to manage money and emotions, grow independent from parents, learn to honor and respect their bodies and embrace their sexuality, and open their minds and hearts to spiritual beliefs, then they will have spent time giving themselves valuable tools that will help set them up for a mature, successful partnership with a spouse.
Hopefully all that experience will help our girls choose a husband who will not only make their hearts race and stomachs flip flop at his sexy smile, but also a guy who is her best friend. A guy who compliments her strengths, respects her and supports her. A man who will make a truly great match for her. For life.
It’s SO true. I did most of this maturing while married. Some of it I even did while mothering my four children. While I have nothing to really compare it to, I imagine it would have been much easier to do all this growing up before I was a wife and mother. I’m NOT going to even ask my husband and kids their thoughts about living through my learning curve! I do not want to know. We all survived.
However . . . knowing what I know now, and having the advice I've read in this book . . . I can't help wondering how things might have been different had I taken the time in my early twenties to grow up instead of growing up while being a mom and wife. I've always been a great multitasker, but . . . what if . . .
Shannon and Celeste’s path is the one I choose for my girls—for every girl. It’s a gift to each young woman and her future husband. Check it out. Do you agree?